How To Win Her Back in 5 Stages - Game Plan [with 17 Mini-Objectives]
You've broken off for reasons best known to you, but you know the guy and what his likes, dislikes or preferences are. So if you want him back you'll know how to. However, you can't make your ex fall back in love with you using words the process of getting your long-distance girlfriend/boyfriend back will. How to get ex girlfriend back when you live long distance from each other can be tricky. When the relationship ended, she chose to move away, as in a different.
If you truly want your long distance relationship to succeed then you have to have money. Lets look at scenario two. Scenario Two In case you have forgotten scenario two consists of both you and your girlfriend being around 30 years old, in a long distance relationship and you both have established jobs but not a lot of time.
Throughout my years I have found one correlation to be unfortunately true. If you have a well paying job then you probably have to work a lot of hours I am from the U. Above I established that if you are in a long distance relationship then you should at least be seeing your significant other once a month.
Well, if you work a lot then you are going to have to dip into your vacation days in order to make this possible but then you get into the fact that you only have a certain amount of vacation days to dip into. In other words, time is a major issue here. The obvious work around is to find a permanent solution where both of you can see each other every day but then you are faced with another problem. Now that we have that out of the way lets take a look at some of the other challenges with long distance relationships.
There are two that immediately spring to mind, Out of sight, out of mind. Lack of physical contact. Pretty soon one thing leads to another and she is drunk and making out with some random dude. Out of sight, out of mind… You will find that thoughts like this constantly creep in when you are in a long distance relationship. In fact, so many people have this problem in long distance relationships that entire breakups occur just because someone was paranoid.
Every single week our libidos needs have to be met or we are going to be a bit cranky.
Some people take this really hard and end up cheating. In fact, I would say that most of the men who attempt this task end up failing at it. So, my goal for this guide is to come up with a plan that you can follow to increase your chances for success. After all, that is what we are trying to accomplish here, Increase your chances in this particular instance. Below I have created a graphic for you outlining what I consider to be the best way to increase your chances of getting your LDR girlfriend back.
What Would You Do With Like always, I am going to be covering each of the seven steps outlined in the game plan above in a very in-depth manner so if anything is confusing to you right now try not to jump off the ship yet. Lets take a look at step one! Well, if you really want to increase your chances of getting your long distance relationship love life back on track then its a really good idea for you to determine if you even have a realistic shot of winning your ex back.
What do I mean by that? Lets take this example and roll with it for a bit. Lets say that you are a high school kid who is 18 years old and your girlfriend just moved a few states away. Lets make another assumption and say that you do manage to win your ex girlfriend back by following steps two to seven from the game plan above and the game plan above has been tested and proven to work.
Well, you are still young and it could be years before either you or your girlfriend could move to each other. So, logic dictates that another breakup is inevitable. I know you are hurting right now as a result of this breakup but you know the only thing that will hurt more than the feeling you are feeling now. But guys get the idea that if they can show their ex GF how helpless they are without her, she will come back.
They try to beg and plead to get her back. In some cases, guys go to extreme lengths to show their ex how miserable they are without her. The truth is though, no girl is attracted to a weak guy.
If you act like you are miserable without her, she will just get less and less attracted to you until she decides to cut you off from her life. I just need to stay in touch with her. The more you text or call your ex, the less attractive you will look to her. Even if you act all casual when you text her, you will still come off as needy as your ex will see right through it.
Texting her again and again is a sign of neediness and desperation and no girl is attracted to a needy guy. Notice how texting and calling her all the time are coming out of neediness and desperation instead of a genuine desire to speak to her and enjoy a conversation with her.
I will agree to whatever she wants from me and do anything to make her happy. It may have worked before the breakup in some cases. The same goes for when you tell her you will do anything to get her back.
More commonly known as becoming a doormat. Even if you manage to convince her to come back this way, she will leave again soon because she will not have any respect for you. Not because you love her, but because you are afraid to lose her to some other guy. Because you are afraid to be alone. Not unless she is extremely manipulative. In which case, you should still not do it because you will be even more miserable when you are back together.
Anger, Denial, Bargaining Example: She told me she loved me just a couple of weeks ago and now she is sleeping around with someone else. Her new boyfriend is not the right person for her. I need to speak to her immediately and convince her to leave the other guy for me. In some cases, she might start dating after a week or a month. But in almost all the cases, her new relationship will be a rebound. And it will end. Read more about the nature of rebound relationships here and how to get her back when she has a boyfriend here.
I should have known you were a gold digger. I hope you spend the rest of your life being as miserable as I know you are inside. No one wants to be with a guy who is abusive. So, if you ever have the urge to say anything mean to your ex girlfriend, do yourself a favor and STOP. What if I have already made these mistakes? These mistakes are very common. As I mentioned earlier, these mistakes are a direct result of you going through grief and acting on your instincts.
This only means you are human. What is no contact? No contact is a simple rule to not contact your ex at all for a certain number of days.
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You want to remove your ex from your life and from your mind. How No Contact Affects You? When you cut your ex girlfriend out of your life, you will start seeing things clearly and feel better about yourself. You will realize that you can live without your ex and life is not so bad after all. When you stop contacting her, you will go cold turkey on this addiction.
Just like any other addiction, you will slowly recover from it and start seeing things clearly. You need to get rid of this addiction before you can approach her and get her back.
As long as you are addicted to her, you will be needy and desperate. And if you are needy or desperate, you will never be able to approach her from a position of strength. Even if you try to fake it, she will smell your neediness from a mile away. She was close to you and she knows a lot about you. Even if you have not made any of the mistakes above, no contact is still very important because you want to give your ex some time to process the breakup and miss you.
When you stop contacting your ex, you will instantly become less needy and desperate in her eyes. Should I tell her that I am doing no contact? Hopefully, she will understand and will be impressed and confused and leave you alone.
In fact, in most cases, this will make her want you more. Remember how you were pushing her away when you kept contacting her and telling her how you love her and will give the world to be with her? This is what I call the push pull dynamics of a breakup. Besides, you are not doing this forever, you will only do this for a short while as we will discuss in just a moment.
What if she finds another boyfriend during no contact? Even if she dates someone else during no contact, it will probably be a rebound and you can still win her back. Read about rebounds and winning her back from a rebound.
Ideally, you should do no contact until you have finished stage 1 and stage 2 of this mission to get your ex girlfriend back permanently. That means you should do no contact at least until you have stopped panicking, regained your composure and figured out how to defeat the little devils Stage 2. It can take from two weeks to three months. Read this article on no contact rule to figure out how much no contact is ideal for you. If you are confused, I recommend you set a time limit of at least 30 days.
If you and your ex are speaking to each other regularly. Text her the following or something similar. I hope you understand. When you first start no contact, you are going to grieve a lot.
You are going to feel all the emotions that people going through grief feel.
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You will feel denial, anger, depression, confusion and obsession. Breakup Grief is a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you will feel like crap and sometimes you will feel much better about yourself. The key is to let yourself feel the emotions and still keep working on yourself.
If you feel like crying, let it out. If you feel anger, shout out loud. But remember to always balance it out and always keep in mind that you need to become a better version of yourself if you want her back. Occasionally, you must pick yourself up and realize that there is much more to life than relationships and breakup. You must remind yourself that life will keep throwing challenges at you.
You must learn to pick yourself up and get back in the game. You need to keep moving forward. That means you need to accept that your ex girlfriend broke up with you and your past relationship is over.
You can start a new relationship with her and that relationship may be an amazing one. But the past relationship is over, and there is nothing you can do about it. For a lot of guys reading this, the idea of accepting the breakup will be a tough one.
You may even trick yourself into thinking that you have accepted the breakup when you are secretly still hoping that things will go back to the way they were. So, consider this as an optional objective for now.
That means, you can move on to Stage 2 without completing this objective. But you need to finish this objective before you move on to Stage 3. Spend Time with Your Loved Ones optional One of the reasons our minds panic so hard after a breakup is because of our deep rooted fear of being alone. Of being left out in the world.
Of never being loved. But chances are, you have a lot of people in your life that love you, care about you, and want you to be happy. Your friends and family can be a very effective healing tool. When you spend time with them and notice how they care about you and love you, your sub-conscious mind will calm down realizing that you are not alone in this world. That you are loved, and you will survive even if you have lost your ex.
You can still get your ex girlfriend back. But you must make a note in your mind to make new friends, good friends you can trust, when you are ready in the future. I have seen this happen to my readers and clients over and over again. And I would hate to see it happen to you. The Inner Demons aka focus on yourself Objectives: In my opinion, this is the most important stage of this mission. If you fail at this stage, you will most likely fail at getting your ex girlfriend back permanently.
Even if you somehow manage to get her back for the time being, I am quite positive you will break up again in the future. We are going to go through each of the objectives of this stage and then we are going to list out some of the common pitfalls that most guys face during this stage.
I am going to try to list out some of the most common reasons here that you may be able to relate to. Here are a few examples of when a girl loses attraction for you.
The Ultimate Guide To Getting A Long Distance Relationship Ex Girlfriend Back
You always showered her with affection. You gave her whatever she wanted. In fact, all the three reasons mentioned above are a direct result of insecurity. If you love her, you should show her. He will respect you more, for all this, yet want to come back. This is the only way you will impress him now.
This is a tricky game and you will have to play very masterfully. Here is what you need to do if you want to make your long distance ex miss you. Go silent completely Sometimes you ex being long distance works in your favor. When you want to make your long distance ex miss you, you will have to go completely silent for a while. What To Say When You Call Your Ex Choose the timing right to get back in touch Once you are sure that your ex has cooled off it will be the right time to get back into the picture.
At first you need to send a mail detailing that you have understood the cause of the break up and would like to patch things up. Don't immediately respond to it as you don't want your ex to think that all you have been doing is waiting for his mail.
Let a little time pass and then mail him back. Talk of fun things that you have been doing and people you have been meeting. Your ex will begin to miss the fun person that you are.
Take dating advice and your ex will begin to miss you. Rekindle happy memories Move on to talking over the phone. Talk of happy and fun things and the good times that you both had and your ex will miss you a lot.